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Julien Tedd was a married man man in his 30s, an actor and a billionaire CEO of PAXTON Trades which was in Delta. He was a fake husband with grey eyes and a vexed face. Who loves money than anything. "Our marriage was like a contract basis. We would act on his role. I found myself fond of his dominant side. His black hair was perfect with those thin glasses which read thousands of newspapers or faces of other ladies. Wait! Other ladies? His one of the hobbies was to impress other ladies while doing his job." Sighed Monica, his fake wife. Two enemies bonded with nothing but a piece of paper that held their fake aggreement. But wait, what was the need to have a fake marriage? My marriage was fake. Very fake. Made-up in my mind that we would somehow fit with each other nagging, fighting being disloyal and bad-mouthing for everything.

174 Chapters

TO LOVE A FEMALE ALPHA

I grew up with a plan. I already knew from the very beginning that my whole life would revolve around reclaiming the territory that rightfully belonged to my father's name. I wouldn't stop until I got it back, even if that meant playing a game of seduction with Alpha Maddox, the ruthless Alpha of the Dark Forest Pack, to get my way in. But what I didn't see coming was Xander Trevino — Alpha Maddox's brother and his new Beta. Xander was cold, dismissive, and my fated mate. His being distant and unbothered by me should have made it easier for me to put my game into action, but it didn't. Because every time we collide, sparks fly and I am left weak to my core. Being weak was not part of the game. ***** This book is a spin-off novel from the Alpha Blood Circle Series but can be read as a standalone. ***** Follow me on my I G and F B for updates and teasers - author.cassa.m

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Married To My Ex Billionaire Uncle

Ivy went home only to find the man she devoted her whole life to cheating with her elder sister. It was supposed to be their wedding day and he didn't show up,breaking his promise after making her give up on her career. Heartbroken, she found solace in the bar and she met someone in her drunken state. The next morning, she had no way to return home because she was now homeless. She pleaded with the one who helped her to take her in, but he refused. Then it struck her. "I heard you are looking for a wife over the phone. Let's get married,"she proposed. A few days later, the media were surprise to see a once famous actress with a renowned billionaire, leading to interviews. Mr. Zack Anderson, usually dismissive of reporters, seemed different that day. "Mr. Zack Anderson, did the once famous actress seduce you for personal gain?" "Who has the right to seduce me other than my wife?" he replied, and someone in his room stood up. "She married my uncle!" Six months later, her husband's sudden confession surprised her.

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Revenge Is Best Served Post-reincarnation

Evonne Shannon was a poor student mother sponsored. She was also the crush I had been courting for a long time. Wanting to allow her to shine, I gave up my place in the piano competition for her. However, she glared at me with disdain for deciding this on my own. She then instantly turned around and handed the registration form to her boyfriend, Angelo Zambrano, and said, "Ange, only you deserve this competition." Evonne liked sports cars, so I begged my mother to buy her a limited-edition McLaren supercar. But in return, Evonne mocked me and called me shallow. "Don't think I'll accept you just because I'm accepting the car, Chase Shannon. You've never understood me." With my help, Evonne got to put on a facade of a mysterious billionaire's daughter. But the moment she got money from me, she turned around and went on a romantic getaway with Angelo. I thought of Evonne as my everything and even asked my mother to arrange for her to join the family company. Within half a year, she was promoted to a core team member. She then conspired with Angelo to drain the company dry and even forced me to my death. "What else can you do besides insult me with money and a materialistic lifestyle, Chase? You're the most disgusting obstacle on my path to success. Only when you're dead can I marry Ange," she declared. I was heartbroken when I heard this, and that was when Evonne pushed me off the sidewalk and into traffic. Immediately after that incident, I was reincarnated to the day I bought Evonne a piano. She was glaring at me with disdain. "If you don't want to buy it, just say so. There's no need to humiliate me like this." I let out a dismissive scoff. "Am I the one who's humiliating you, or are you the shameless one? You beg for food but complain that it's cold. You're worse than those stray dogs on the streets. At least they show gratitude after getting scraps."

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Badboy And Our Wrong Love

PHOEBE - Holy mother of craps! I had lost my virginity to the college’s bad boy, Asher Gilbert. And, he told me it meant nothing to him. He told me to get lost! ********* ASHER - All my life till now, no one had ever intimidated me. Not anyone. Not my dad, nor the school principal… Not those street gangs… lastly, not the mafia. But this strange girl— a Maserati shows up. Making me urge to brand her, as mine. ********** “Why are you like this to me?” “What do you mean?” “Why are you so dismissive but save me, every time I land in trouble?” He didn’t reply that. Instead, he sighed, crunching the plastic bottle in his hand. He threw it in anger to the other side of the room. Then he approached me. I took three steps back, timidly. His intimidating gaze dropped towards mine. He didn’t stop until the back of my head contacted the wall. Only then did his both hands angle at the sides of my head. My eyes immediately gorged at his hard-on. Flash backs of the night we had together immediately ran through my brain. The only thing I could think of was the way my mouth was wrapped around him. His Adam’s apple swallowed numerous times, making me wonder what he thought of. It was like one of those scenes of movies. Like he was in a battle with himself. But the question was, what was he so protective about? Why didn’t he like making conversations with females? “I’m never gonna change, Phoebe. Remember that,” ********* What is worse than drunken one-night-stand, with the college’s bad boy? Or a cold treatment thereafter? However, one pregnancy changes it all. In this love so wrong, can they ever make things right?

56 Chapters

Moonstruck by You

Alva has been arranged to get married to Lucas, the young heir to the Rossi Empire. On the day that has been arranged for her engagement, Lucas changes his mind, choosing to marry her timid, less attractive servant and throwing the family into chaos. Lucas Rossi is the, strikingly handsome, yet intimidating heir to the Rossi Empire. A man barely seen, completely avoidant of the paparazzi and with rumours spreading here and there about how he is only half human, yet no one can tell what the other half of him is. When he agrees to marry the politician's daughter in paper alone for the sake of business bonds, he is astounded by his sudden pull to the Hazel, whose life is turned upside down when she catches his attention instead. Why has he left the ethereal looking heiress to settle for a mere maid?

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What Strategies Help Someone With A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment?

3 Answers2025-09-01 18:44:47

Navigating relationships can be quite a journey, especially when it comes to understanding attachment styles. For someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment, the first step is self-awareness. Recognizing and understanding one's own patterns is crucial. I can think back to a friend of mine who always seemed distant in relationships. He had a habit of prioritizing independence over intimacy, which often left him feeling isolated despite being surrounded by friends. It took time for him to explore how this attachment style impacted his connections. If someone can acknowledge their tendency to withdraw or minimize emotional closeness, they can start to take steps towards change.

Emotional regulation is another essential strategy. When feelings of vulnerability arise, it’s easy to retreat and shut down. A useful practice might be mindfulness or journaling. Writing down thoughts and emotions can help in identifying triggers and understanding underlying feelings. My friend found that capturing his emotions in a journal made it less overwhelming; it gave him a chance to process what he was feeling without the immediate pressure of sharing it with someone else, which often caused him to back off.

Lastly, working on forming secure attachments gradually can transform relationships. This involves taking small steps to engage with others emotionally, like expressing appreciation or sharing a personal thought. It’s like dipping your toes into the water before diving in completely. When my friend began to share little bits about his day, he noticed that others responded positively. Little by little, by creating these small, consistent connections, he started feeling a greater sense of belonging.

What Does Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mean?

2 Answers2025-10-08 22:18:02

Digging into the concept of dismissive avoidant attachment totally took me back to my psychology class days! This attachment style is all about that mix of independence and emotional distance. It’s like that one friend who always says they’re busy with their ‘solo missions’ and isn’t really keen on getting too up close and personal. So, imagine a person who values their autonomy to a point where they often downplay and avoid emotional connections. They might be exceptional at keeping their personal life under wraps and maintaining that strong, independent facade. At first glance, it seems like they’ve got it together, you know? But underneath, there's often a belief that needing someone else is a weakness.

In relationships, this style can cause some hiccups. Picture a person who might initially seem charming but withdraws when things start to get deeper. They're that one character in a rom-com who constantly flirts with the idea of love but freaks out when the relationship gets serious. It’s like they want to keep all their cards close to their chest. Maybe they’ve had experiences where vulnerability felt like a chink in their armor, and they decided that shutting down emotionally was the safer route. I’ve definitely seen some of my friends struggle in their relationships because they were drawn to someone with this attachment style but found themselves feeling shut out. It’s frustrating when you’re trying to connect and the other person is pulling back!

Overall, it's fascinating and ultimately sad how people with dismissive avoidant attachment end up pushing away those who genuinely care. If you’re navigating a relationship with someone like this, understanding that it’s less about you and more about their own fears can help mitigate those feelings of rejection. What’s intriguing is how awareness of these patterns can sometimes lead to healthier interactions, so perhaps it’s worth exploring more about attachment styles!

What Are The Traits Of Someone With A Dismissive Avoidant Style?

3 Answers2025-09-01 00:04:32

It's interesting how emotional dynamics shape personalities, especially when looking at dismissive avoidant styles. People with this attachment style often come off as self-sufficient or emotionally distant, which can throw others off. For instance, in relationships, they might seem more invested in their independence than forming deep connections. You know, like that character in 'Fruits Basket'—I think it's Kyo—who struggles with letting people in because he fears they'll see him as a burden. That defense mechanism keeps them from being vulnerable but might leave those around them feeling hurt or confused.

Another trait that stands out is how dismissive avoidants often minimize emotional experiences. You might be chatting with a friend about something that deeply bothers you, and their reaction could be akin to a shrug. It's not that they don't care; rather, they're uncomfortable with emotional depth and might actively avoid discussing feelings. It's like navigating a minefield when all you want is a supportive ear. I think that can stem from early experiences where emotions weren’t openly processed. It’s like watching a movie where the protagonist keeps running away from their allies just to avoid the heart-wrenching climax!

In summary, dismissive avoidants may exhibit a blend of emotional distance, discomfort with vulnerability, and a tendency to prioritize independence. They remind me of characters who put up walls as a means of self-protection in a world that feels overwhelming. Sometimes, all they need is a little patience to help them see the beauty in connections, don’t you think?

How To Identify Dismissive Avoidant Behavior In Relationships?

2 Answers2025-10-08 13:48:58

Navigating the intricate web of relationships can sometimes feel like exploring an uncharted territory. When we talk about dismissive avoidant behavior, it's fascinating, yet a bit complex to identify. A friend and I had an in-depth convo over coffee the other day, reminiscing about relationships we’ve been in or seen around us. It struck me how this attachment style often masquerades behind a facade of independence. People with dismissive avoidant traits typically value personal space to the extent that it appears they’re aloof or disinterested in deeper connections. Their tendency to shrug off emotional discussions can be a significant red flag. I’ve noticed this in past relationships where, no matter how much I tried to talk about our feelings, I was met with shrugged shoulders and vague responses.

Looking at the nuanced nuances of it, dismissive avoidants can be tricky. They might seem like the ultimate self-sufficient partner, but this often leads them to push away intimacy. Think about the classic “I don’t need anyone” line — it’s like a well-rehearsed mantra for them. They often feel uncomfortable with closeness, which can manifest into withdrawing during emotional moments, or even acting uninterested when it comes to planning future activities together. I remember how my ex used to change the topic whenever I brought up anything related to us, which now feels like a textbook move of this attachment style!

Another layer that adds to this is their sometimes combative nature when faced with vulnerability. Engaging in deep discussions often felt like a battle, and they would usually retreat to sarcasm or deflecting humor to dodge the issue at hand. Just think about how relationships thrive on vulnerability and trust – when one partner is always in ‘flight mode,’ it creates a dynamic that’s tough to balance. So, in recognizing these patterns, I'd suggest reflecting on how conversations feel. If you're often left feeling unheard or being pushed away, it may be time to reassess the emotional dynamics in play. Trust your intuition, and don’t hesitate to engage in open dialogues about these feelings with your partner.

Interestingly, I found that compassion plays a crucial role here, as many with this attachment style might not even realize their tendencies stem from past traumas or defense mechanisms. So, discernment and kindness could pave the way for deeper understanding. Just remember, recognizing these behaviors is the first step towards creating a healthier interaction where both partners can grow!

Can Dismissive Avoidant Individuals Change Their Attachment Style?

1 Answers2025-10-08 00:47:21

Navigating the world of attachment styles can feel a bit like wandering through a complex anime plot, filled with twists and turns. I've often found myself reflecting on the idea that dismissive avoidant individuals can indeed change their attachment style. It's like leveling up in a game; at first, it seems impossible, but with the right strategy and experiences, you can gain new skills and insights.

A friend of mine, who's often reticent about emotions, recently started journaling. Each page became a step towards understanding feelings he often brushed aside. He discovered that sharing even the smallest thoughts with others can break those walls down over time. Engaging with emotional moments in stories, like the connections portrayed in 'Your Lie in April,' sparked a realization that vulnerability can lead to genuine connections. It’s all about gradually rewriting those ingrained patterns, allowing for a more secure attachment style to blossom.

Of course, it’s not just about willpower. It requires introspection, guidance, and sometimes professional help. Therapists often serve as great companions on this journey, much like a well-written side character who helps the protagonist grow. Seeing someone work through their attachment style has been a rewarding experience for me, demonstrating that change is always possible when you’re willing to face the shadows of your past. It really shows that personal transformation is not only a possibility; it can be a beautifully rewarding adventure.

Watching a close family member struggle with their dismissive avoidant tendencies has certainly shaped my perspective on attachment styles. I remember discussing the nuances of emotional connections over a game of 'Persona 5,' where every character has a unique backstory and relationship style. It's eye-opening how these narratives can mirror real life.

In my case, I've witnessed my family member start slow conversations around feelings, creating a small but significant shift in their interactions. With each attempt to practice emotional communication, they seemed to gain more confidence. The transformation takes time and patience, much like mastering the art of a complex game strategy. I truly believe that continuous effort, combined with genuine interest in understanding oneself, can lead to a more secure attachment style—and find it inspiring to see firsthand.

This journey definitely highlights how essential it is to be aware of our feelings and vulnerable with others. Just like a well-crafted plot reveals connections between characters, so too does opening up foster stronger bonds in reality. The process isn't easy, but embracing the adventure can lead to growth and deeper connections.

Honestly, I think the answer is a solid yes! I've chatted with friends, immersed in the depths of relationship dynamics, and many agree that change is within reach for those with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. It's somewhat akin to leveling up your character stats in an RPG; you start off with certain skills, but with effort and experiences, you can enhance your emotional toolkit.

There's this anime, 'March Comes in Like a Lion,' that beautifully captures the struggle of connecting with others and overcoming emotional barriers. Watching the characters develop their relationships makes me believe that anyone can shift their attachments if they challenge their fears and open up to love and vulnerability. It all comes down to recognizing those deeply set patterns and actively choosing to address them. Embracing healthy relationships and seeking support can be the catalysts for that transformation. Change starts within, and sometimes a little nudge from the world around us—like a heartfelt narrative in a novel—can be the spark that ignites the journey towards secure attachment. It's really a hopeful reminder that growth is possible for all of us, don’t you think?

What Are The Signs Of A Dismissive Avoidant In Friendships?

3 Answers2025-10-08 17:40:22

Navigating friendships can sometimes feel like wandering through a labyrinth, right? In my experience, when someone exhibits signs of being a dismissive avoidant, they often show a notable reluctance to open up emotionally. You might find that these friends don't engage in deep conversations or brush off personal questions with a wave of their hand, as if it's just not worth their time. It's like trying to get a peek behind a curtain, but it's firmly closed.

Another thing I've noticed is their tendency to avoid physical closeness. If you suggest a group hangout or a casual coffee catch-up, they might seem indifferent or make excuses. They often prioritize their own space—think of a cat who loves being near you but also values its independence. It can definitely feel confusing because you might wonder where you stand.

Emotional detachment is another big red flag. They might be there for you during fun times, sharing laughs and good vibes, but when you need support or if something serious comes up, they tend to distance themselves. It’s almost like a ‘you do you, I’ll do me’ attitude that can leave you feeling a bit isolated. These signs can make friendships tricky, but understanding them makes a world of difference!

How To Communicate Effectively With A Dismissive Avoidant Person?

3 Answers2025-09-01 02:15:51

Navigating conversations with a dismissive avoidant person can feel like trying to cross a rickety bridge – challenging but doable with the right approach. First off, it’s vital to understand that they might not respond well to emotional discussions, often seeing them as overwhelming. A calm, low-pressure environment can make all the difference. So, instead of diving headfirst into deep discussions, I’ve found it’s effective to lead with casual topics or shared interests. Mentioning a recent episode of 'Attack on Titan' or a game you've both enjoyed can ease them into a more relaxed state. Sometimes, a gentle icebreaker can allow those protective walls to loosen up a bit.

Listening is huge here too. Rather than firing off questions, I find it helps to let them talk at their own pace. Ask open-ended questions about things that interest them, like their favorite comic or video game, giving them room to share without feeling pressured. A comment like, ‘I thought the latest chapter of 'My Hero Academia' was amazing – what did you think?’ can invite them into a conversation without overwhelming them.

Another handy trick is to keep the conversation light but meaningful. When they do share something personal, even if it’s a small window, show appreciation for their honesty without pushing for more. Something as simple as saying, ‘I really appreciate you sharing that’ can help them feel safe enough to open up further down the line. It’s all about building trust, and taking baby steps can lead to more profound conversations in the future. All in all, patience is key, combined with a genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings – it’s a gradual process, but totally worth it!

Are Dismissive Avoidant Partners Emotionally Available?

3 Answers2025-10-08 20:02:48

Navigating relationships can be a wild ride, especially when it comes to partners with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. Let me tell you, it’s like trying to have a deep conversation with a cat! On the surface, they often appear independent and self-sufficient, which can be incredibly attractive. However, their emotional availability can be like a mirage in the desert—looks enticing but elusive. Often, they prefer to keep an arm’s length distance, which can make you feel like you’re playing a game of emotional tag where you just can’t catch them.

For those who love deeply, the struggle can be real. You might find yourself yearning for those heartfelt chats or even just some cozy, cuddle time, but the dismissive avoidant partner may retreat whenever things start getting too close for comfort. It’s not that they don’t care; it’s like they’re navigating their own emotional landscape, which is sometimes a fortress to keep out perceived threats. Building trust and intimacy becomes a delicate dance where every step has to be taken with care.

Communicating openly about needs is crucial. If you’re with someone who identifies with this attachment style, it might be helpful to establish a safe space for conversations. Building that rapport can be beneficial in breaking down those pesky walls. Remember, love doesn’t always look the same; what might feel like emotional unavailability could actually be a different expression of affection!

Does Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Impact Mental Health?

3 Answers2025-10-08 16:32:13

Navigating the world of attachment styles is like peeling back layers on an onion. For me, the concept of dismissive avoidant attachment is particularly fascinating (and a bit heartbreaking). This attachment style often develops from childhood experiences and leads individuals to become emotionally distant and reluctant to rely on others. I’ve seen this play out so vividly in anime, like in 'Your Lie in April,' where the characters grapple with their pasts and their relationships. The weight of not being able to connect deeply can be immense!

From my perspective, the impact on mental health is significant. It can foster feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and even depression as individuals struggle with intimacy and vulnerability. There’s this pervasive fear of getting too close, which leads to isolation. I remember binge-watching 'Steins;Gate' where character dynamics also reflect the tension between wanting to connect and the fear of being hurt. It's relatable!

On the flip side, I find that raising awareness around attachment styles can be empowering. Understanding why we relate to others the way we do opens doors for personal growth. Therapy, mindfulness, and even good ol’ self-reflection can help bridge those gaps. I often chat with friends about these themes in our favorite series, and it’s a reminder that we are all works in progress, learning to balance our needs and those of others in a sometimes chaotic world.