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My girlfriend, Olivia, had one way of measuring how much I loved her: how fast I replied.
In the two years we dated, she blocked me 88 times.
The first time, I was in the shower and missed her call.
The 17th time, I was bringing her coffee when I missed a message asking for extra ice.
The 56th time, I was at dinner with a client and didn't respond quickly enough to a video she'd sent me.
This time, I worked until ten and missed the 9:50 p.m. movie she'd asked me to see with her.
I told her there was a problem with the project and my manager wouldn't let me leave.
She just laughed.
"Anyone who really loves me would make it to a movie even with ten minutes' notice."
When I got home that night, she'd changed the door code and removed my fingerprint from the lock.
I sat outside all night.
After work the next day, I went to her favorite jeweler and bought the necklace she'd wanted for the past three months.
I kept telling myself I hadn't done enough.
I just needed to do a better job balancing work and our relationship.
She was in the shower when I got home.
Her phone lit up on the dining table.
A notification from a group chat called "Do Not Bring Him Tonight" flashed across the screen.
Olivia, her childhood friend Ethan, and my best friend Daniel were all in it.
Daniel had sent a voice message.
"Olivia, I'll keep Chris at work late again tomorrow. Let's see if he chooses overtime or you."
Ethan replied almost immediately with a laugh.
"I found another beautiful piece of jewelry. It costs three times his salary. Send it to him and see if he chooses his paycheck or you."
That was when I finally understood.
I hadn't failed to prove that I loved her.
They'd been setting me up to fail from the beginning.
And if that was how things really were, I was done.