In What Order Should You Read The Love Letters To The Dead Book?

Publication order is the standard, but I envy anyone who gets to experience this series for the first time in any order. 'Dearest Aris' feels intimate, like reading someone's private diary. 'Fading Ink' opens the world into a gothic, sprawling estate drama. 'Whispers from the Shore' brings everything into the present with a quiet, reflective peace. Each book has a distinct tone, so you're really getting three different flavors of a similar melancholy. If you start with one and the vibe isn't clicking, try another! They're connected, but not dependent.

My copy has dates at the top of each letter. That's your guide. Start with the earliest date and proceed to the latest. It's that simple. The entire narrative is anchored to a school year, so the dates keep you oriented. Follow the calendar Laurel follows.

I remember putting the book down and just thinking about how perfectly the format captured that teenage habit of talking to posters on your wall. It felt so authentic, not like an authorial trick. Laurel doesn't get magical advice from these ghosts; she's just using them as blank pages to project onto. The letter format allows for nonlinear storytelling—memories of her sister surface when triggered by a detail about Judy Garland or Heath Ledger. It feels messy and real, not neatly chronological. You piece together the full picture of what happened to May the same way Laurel does: in fragments, through association. It's less about the dead celebrities themselves and more about the spaces they leave behind, which Laurel fills with her own story. The ending, where the format subtly shifts, hits so much harder because of the structural groundwork laid by all those one-sided letters.

I loved Rev's story so much more. His relationship with his adoptive parents was incredibly moving. So, if you think you might only read one, skip the order debate and just read 'More Than We Can Tell'. It's the stronger book, in my opinion. Then, if you love it, you can circle back to 'Letters to the Lost' for more of that world.

The emotional impact hinges on the order, in my opinion. Certain side stories, if read immediately after a tragic main chapter, can blunt the despair or provide necessary hope. Other times, reading them too early spoils a character's hidden motives. I followed a curated order posted by a longtime fan that wove side stories in at specific emotional beats, and it was transformative. It felt like a director's cut. I wouldn't recommend it for a first read, as it requires someone else's interpretation, but for a re-read? It's the only way to go. It makes the world feel deeper and the characters' choices more poignant.

I’m surprised no one’s mentioned the meta-message about storytelling itself. Laurel is literally constructing a narrative (the letters) to understand her life. The book shows us that humans are narrative creatures; we need stories to make sense of chaos. But the crucial lesson is that we must be willing to revise our stories when new truths emerge. The first story Laurel tells herself (the perfect sister, the tragic accident) is a shield. The real story she uncovers is harder but sets her free. The message is: be the rigorous editor of your own life’s story. Don’t cling to a first draft that no longer serves you.

I admired how it handled the topic of mental illness indirectly. May’s struggles and the celebrities’ tragedies hint at depression, addiction, and the systems that fail people. Laurel’s grief is mixed with a desperate need to understand ‘why,’ which is often unanswered. Healing, in this context, involves accepting the lack of a satisfying ‘why.’ It’s about making peace with ambiguity and focusing on the ‘what now’ instead of the ‘why then.’ That’s a mature, difficult lesson the book gently leads its protagonist (and reader) toward.