Being a mother changed things she had not expected to change.She had expected the obvious changes—the schedule changes, the attention changes, the specific demands of a new person who required more than the work required and required it in different ways. She had prepared for these changes the way she prepared for significant transitions: by thinking carefully about what was coming and organizing herself to meet it.She had not prepared adequately, because you could not prepare adequately for this. It turned out that preparation was not the mechanism by which you became a parent. The mechanism was the child.Little Wren was, in her first months, primarily a presence and a need. The presence: warm, specific, increasingly herself. The need: constant, requiring, the specific all-consuming quality that made Elara understand viscerally why her mother had described early motherhood as the period when she had not fully slept for eight months and had found it acceptable.She found it accepta
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