The thing about Adrian, Daniel was discovering, was that he listened differently from other people.Most people listened in order to respond. Daniel had understood this for a long time — had watched it in depositions, in client meetings, in the social performances of dinner parties he attended occasionally and left early. The speaker finished. The listener assembled their reply. The conversation moved forward in this transactional way, each party taking turns at being heard without either being truly attended to. He was not above this himself. He knew he did it.Adrian did not do it.He listened in the way that Daniel had apparently, nine years ago and without knowing it, also listened — with the full allocation of attention, present to the thing being said rather than already moving toward what came next. Daniel had noticed it on the bus, and in the restaurant, and now here, at the corner table in the ground floor café on a Thursday afternoon, where lunch had stretched into something
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