What Are The Causes When My In Laws Are Obsessed With Me?

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Wyatt
Wyatt
2025-11-04 14:29:02


Lately I've been chewing on why some in-laws fixate on certain people, and a few patterns keep popping up. Sometimes it’s admiration turned up to Eleven — they see what they wished for and cling to it. Other times it’s fear: fear of losing their child or being left out pushes them into over-involvement. Cultural expectations also play a huge role; in my circle, family roles are intense, and that pressure creates a kind of entitlement to know everything about your life.

From a different angle, I’ve noticed projection and nostalgia do weird things. If they’ve got unresolved dreams or regrets, they may project those onto you, treating you like a living embodiment of what might have been. Social isolation and boredom are quieter culprits: companionship can get misdirected into an unhealthy focus on one relative. Technology amplifies everything — it's easier than ever to check in, comment, or show up uninvited. Sometimes the cause is simply poor boundary training: nobody taught them how to be appropriately curious.

What works for me is to normalize small rituals that protect my space: setting times to chat, sharing updates on my own terms, and asking my partner to advocate when lines are crossed. If obsession becomes controlling or manipulative, outside help or family counseling can reframe behaviors. I try to keep compassion in the mix; obsession usually signals unmet needs, and that softens my approach while I protect my sanity.
Bella
Bella
2025-11-05 11:01:31
Weirdly, feeling like your in-laws are obsessed with you can be like suddenly being cast as the lead in someone else's long-running subplot. For me, the causes usually stack up: admiration or idealization (they see qualities they wish their child had found), loneliness on their side, and sometimes a cultural script that says in-laws should be very involved. Add projection — they might be replaying their own unmet needs through you — or attempts to control family dynamics, which masquerade as extra attention. That cocktail creates intensity that feels both flattering and claustrophobic.

Another reason I've noticed is the social-media effect. When family photos, updates, or mutual friends amplify small things, it can snowball into obsession. Also, if your partner has a shaky boundary with their family, the in-laws may read that as permission. Mental-health factors matter too: anxiety, insecurity, or personality traits can turn care into surveillance. In some families, gossip and competition fuel the behavior: they watch you because they compare you to other relatives and want to 'manage' outcomes.

Practically, I try a mixed approach: gentle limits, redirecting attention toward shared activities (invite them into neutral roles like help with a recipe or a hobby), and leaning on my partner to set clear lines. If things are unhealthy, I keep records and seek outside support — friends, a counselor, or a mediator. It’s draining, but setting consistent boundaries has helped me turn obsessive hovering into manageable involvement, and I still get to enjoy the family moments that feel genuine.
Carter
Carter
2025-11-07 02:43:28

If your in-laws seem obsessed, I tend to parse it into a few blunt causes: unmet emotional needs on their side, control dressed up as care, plain curiosity magnified by social media, or old-family power plays. Sometimes it's admiration, sometimes it's insecurity — they might idolize you or fear you’ll take their child away. Other times they project their own regrets or lonely feelings and latch onto you as a living outlet. Personality traits matter too: anxiety, boundary issues, or a desire to be central in family stories will push someone from interested to obsessed.

When I've dealt with it, I found being clear and calm works best: set polite limits, redirect them toward group activities, and make sure my partner backs me up. If things feel invasive, I document incidents and limit one-on-one exposure until things cool. Humor and small rituals help diffuse intensity, but if the pattern is controlling or feels abusive, escalation to counseling or firmer boundaries is necessary. It’s weird to be the focus of someone else’s emotional life, but keeping my own boundaries intact makes it survivable — and honestly, sometimes a little flattering in strange ways.
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