What Epictetus Quotes Summarize Stoic Control?

2025-08-27 19:13:45 123

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Quinn
Quinn
2025-08-31 16:57:52
A short, useful cluster I use on tough mornings: "Some things are up to us and some are not up to us," plus "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." Those two lines compress Stoic control into a simple protocol: act where you can, tidy your reactions where you can't act.

I also like "Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens." When I’m spiraling, I say that once out loud and then make one small, practical move — answer an email, take a walk, set a timer. It’s not philosophy for philosophers only; it’s a daily habit that stops petty anxieties from snowballing.
Leila
Leila
2025-09-01 08:13:54
If I'm blunt about it, the clearest Stoic summary of control lives in three short phrases by Epictetus. First: "Some things are up to us and some are not up to us." That splits reality into two piles — influence and non-influence — and saves time when you’re deciding to act or to accept.

Second, the moral backbone: "Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens." This isn't passive acceptance; it’s efficient action plus pragmatic peace. Third, the mental hygiene line: "Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them." If you can reframe a setback, you take away its power. I lean on these in everyday choices — emails I can send, relationships I can repair, moods I can manage — and I let the stuff I can't control slide instead of exhausting myself over it.
Jane
Jane
2025-09-01 18:43:34
Back when I was younger and juggling too many firsts, Epictetus felt like a friend whispering sensible things. My go-to quote is the crisp Enchiridion rule: "Some things are up to us and some are not up to us." It helped me stop turning every disappointment into a dramatic soap opera. Another one I write in the margins of my notebook: "There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will." That line taught me to separate effort from outcome.

I also like the phrasing: "Don't demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well." It’s a kinder, gentler approach to acceptance — not resignation, but a reorientation. Practically, I apply these by checking: Can I act on this? If yes, do it. If no, stop rehearsing it in my head. The result has been calmer days and clearer priorities, which honestly feels like a small miracle.
Harper
Harper
2025-09-02 07:25:38
A few Epictetus lines have quietly reorganized how I react to messy days, so I keep returning to them like bookmarks.

My favorite, punchy and simple, is from the opening of the 'Enchiridion': "Some things are up to us and some are not up to us." That little distinction is the core of Stoic control — focus energy on what you can shape (your choices, judgments, effort) and let the rest be background noise. Another one I put on the fridge is, "It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." That’s permission to choose my response even when the circumstance is ugly.

I also love: "Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them," and "Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens." Together they feel like a practical toolkit: narrow your attention, adjust your interpretation, act where you can, and breathe through the rest. Whenever I’m stressed about deadlines or traffic, repeating one of these lines resets my headspace and my priorities.
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