Dealing with a partner's inappropriate behavior can be incredibly isolating, but you're not alone in this. I've seen similar situations in online support groups where women share their experiences—some husbands cross boundaries under the guise of 'jokes' or 'affection,' leaving their partners uncomfortable. The first step is trusting your gut; if his actions feel violating, they probably are. Document specific incidents (dates, what happened) to clarify patterns, and consider setting clear, non-negotiable boundaries. If he dismisses your discomfort, that’s a red flag.
Seeking professional help, like a therapist specializing in marital issues, can provide neutral ground to address this. If he refuses to change or escalates, prioritize your safety. Sometimes love isn’t enough—self-respect matters more. I’ve read too many stories where women minimized such behavior until it spiraled. You deserve to feel safe in your relationship.