Cindy meanwhile, was done catching up with her acquaintance and was feeling quite drained. It was now well into the evening and heading home and getting some rest was really enticing. The only thing holding her tired feet back from heading that way was her friend Evelyn’s photo walk event which was taking place that night.
She was really not feeling up to going for many reasons: It’d been a really long day, she didn’t have her camera with her, except for the one on her phone, it was already dark, She didn’t feel like walking, and, perhaps more importantly, She wasn’t in the brightest of moods… Should She just go home? Or should She head to the photo walk?Gerard Just around that time, he would have been browsing F******k. He had already clicked ‘interested’ on F******k for Evelyn’s photo walk event before so it had popped up again on his notifications. It was around half past eight or a quarter to nine, and he was questioning whether he really wanted to quickly pull himself together and rush there. He needed to get on the subway, switch and take another connecting train. He really wasn’t sure if he could be bothered or if he had any energy left for anything anymore. In addition, In he didn’t even have a camera. He simply didn’t own one.His relationship with his phone is very different than what is the norm and he didn’t always carry it with him by default like everyone does, he always had to see how he felt about it. Did he feel like taking his phone with him that night? No, he didn’t. So he wouldn’t even have anything to take photos with at this photo walk event.Evelyn seemed like a nice girl but he didn’t know her all that well either…Another important point that Cindy couldn’t ignore is she don’t even like taking photos! That’s why her motivation to go was so low… Gerard was like what he’s going to do.He took a quick look at the people responding to the event invite. They seemed like a nice, cheerful crowd made up of a lot of expats from different backgrounds. Seemed like they were all going for a photo exhibit and a drink afterwards too. Cindy’s next to her long mental list of reasons not to go was one simple reason why She should go and it was one that was close to her heart she really did want to support her sweet friend Evelyn who was organizing everything. That thought trumped everything else! She managed to gather the final remnants of her energy and started to make her way over to the event.Gerard finally had a decision clicked into place for him too.Okay, He will just drop by, why not?’ He thought. If they accept him and we mesh well, great. If not, it’ll be a case of thank you very much and goodbye. No problem. Two trains and some rushing and walking later, He arrived. Evelyn and a bunch of people were already there so He greeted everyone. We were all standing in a circle and about three minutes later Cindy appeared, breaking into the circle right opposite him.She stepped forward to give Evelyn a hug, then stepped back again into that spot right in front of him.Now we stood facing each other.And then he looked at her and she looked at him.The second he laid eyes on her, there were both taken somewhere high up into the sky. He completely lost himself in her eyes. He had never, ever experienced anything like this before, never. Cindy was similarly entrenched. His eyes they were so bright, they just kept her there.Gerard had thought to himself She had her head tilted to one side and looked utterly charming. She seemed to be in her own little world. He didn’t know if she was blonde or tall or short or anything else, but he felt her energetic presence very intensely. He was completely engulfed in it. He don’t know how long that flight lasted, one or two or three seconds, but we both went all the way up into the sky.Cindy felt it longer than three seconds.Gerard was like a lifetime rolled into three seconds and a whole lifetime to look into her soul but in actual earth-time, it probably was only three seconds.Cindy feeling of instant recognition was overwhelming. Something in her was saying, “That’s him!”Gerard too had a feeling that they had met before. It was like the emotional sensation of bingo! He’s not the Don Juan type. He’s not into flirting and trying. He concise and to the point both on the outside and within and this was a moment of pure clarity for him.Cindy had thought to herself, there was a short introduction but She couldn’t remember anyone else’s name, She just remembered Gerard’s. Suddenly there was a shift and they all started walking and then, just like that, they found their self next to each other.Gerard look to his right and there she is. Normally he don’t care for superficial conversations, “Oh hello, I am Gerard, I come from Lebanon…” Don’t give me that stuff! Cindy too dislike smalltalk. It’s something She is not very good at. It can’t shed light on what makes a person who they are, what they have done, what they have lived through, what was it that shaped them. So what She asked Gerard was, “What brought you here?”That literally was the question, “What brought you here?”They were in front of a mall called the Galleria at this point, a popular spot in Tbilisi. It takes a few minutes to walk from there to Dunkin’ Donuts, which they needed to go past for the photo walk. During those few minutes between those two points, in response to Cindy’s question, Gerard told Cindy his whole story why he turned against the system, why he left the system, why he left Lebanon in search of his soul, what he found and what his dreams for his future were.Cindy’s question had triggered a concise summary of everything he was and everything that he stood for and his whole life had been laid out in front of her in one organic flow of words in mere minutes. When he was done, she just stood there staring, silent. he said, “Are you stunned or surprised?”She just said, “Wow.” She seemed to be very deep in thought.Gerard opened up so fully, so deeply that it caught Cindy off guard. She would never have thought someone she just met would open up this way and go this deep.He had told her about his ideals, about living a moneyless life and how he’d sometimes had to sleep in his tent because of his beliefs. That was what floored her the honesty in it, the truthfulness, being so straightforward and not disguising any part of his experience, admitting what he’d been going through, especially the part about having to be without a roof over his head sometimes. Cindy was trying to digest everything.When you take the decision to step away from the system and live moneyless, you have to be ready to walk the talk and accept all the things that might come with that. Life won’t be so kind and easy on you and you need to face reality and accept it. No one will come to you and say here are a hundred bucks, you have to be realistic.Cindy thought to herself It was not just the openness and the story itself, i
It was quite crowded. Most of the people from the crowd were sitting on one table and the rest of the tables were filled with locals. They both found a table for themselves. He took a chair and she automatically sat next to him without question or without him having to ask her. He was being his self, she was being herself, they had found each other and there, they were sitting next to each other very willingly, naturally. No games were played.Then Evelyn came by and told them that the exhibit was starting so they went to look at the pictures.When they came back they ended up having to blend on a table full of Georgians as there was nowhere else to sit by then. Cindy and Gerard now ended up sitting directly opposite each other. It was a huge table and they had a lot of distance between them. It would be very difficult to hear each other so they were having very nice conversations with the people around them.Georgians are very hospitable so they were offering them wine. Both Cind
Cindy was realizing that her attraction towards him was that everything checked out on paper and was picture-perfect—he was very connected to nature, was a responsible person with a stable job, and just fit all the criteria that someone normal would go for. And She didn’t want to admit to herself that She was not looking for something normal.Cindy has been meditating for years and this was something that She held very dear to her. She had never shared this thing that was such an important part of her life with him and he had never cared enough to inquire about things that made her tick. This was already a red flag on both counts but She had completely ignored it. Meanwhile, on the other hand She just couldn’t help but notice how different things were with Gerard. Although they had only just met, everything about him, their connection, their conversations, that surreal click them both felt, everything was so palpable, so incredibly real. It wasn’t just a casual crossing of paths, the
Gerard was wearing your favorite ‘t-shirt.’ his favorite t-shirt is kind of torn. It’s not appropriate for any occasion but he love it. She don’t think it should even be called a t-shirt because it is not. He guess technically it’s not a t-shirt.She has been raised to be respectful towards others, plus who is She to judge someone else’s appearance? If he’s happy, She is happy, so She didn’t comment. She do have to admit though, She is very happy that t-shirt never got to see another summer this year. They both said hello and headed off to the bazaar to this one shop that he had been going to for a year and a half now. The sweet old ladies there knew him very well. For Cindy It was actually a very awkward situation that followed.He has brought his friends there before but this was a different situation and they felt it. They exchanged the usual Russian-Geogian pleasantries then all attention was focused on her.Lamazia gogo they were saying, beautiful girl. Then they said deda mea
They were now back in the city walking towards the busy Pekini street where he was going to see Cindy off to the bus. Just before she got on the bus he said to her, “Cindy, you have asked me many questions and I have given you everything that you have asked for. Do you still have questions?” She said, “No.” He said, “I believe you now know everything you need to know to establish something with me. I’m just waiting for your message to tell me if you are in with me. If it’s a no, the black-and-white applies for me, I don’t do gray.” The black and white is really how he live his life, so give him white smoke or black smoke—done! It was up to her now. She was fascinated when he asked her that, She loved it! But She was also very confused! The fact that he was only going to be here just one more month and She would need to stay a whole year longer was very present in her mind.It was also confusing to her as She was still officially in a relationship. No matter how increasingly un
Something went bang in her mind. I love you! It was just the second time they hung out but there they were, those words. He rubbed her back and said, “Don’t worry, I’m with you.” Her second sentence after that was, “I’ve never said this to anyone.”She hadn’t.So it was a double boom! It was boom and then boom again! “ You are a 26 year old traveling adventurer, and so he is, and she have never said these words to anyone?” She said, “No.” She never felt that there was a person that made the sentiment arise which might have triggered that expression out of her. There had never been an occasion which She felt the words were well-placed and valid in any context so She had never said them to anyone before.Although, he don’t consider himself, a very romantic kind of guy, he, on the other hand, had said those words before to the women in his life. So, he knew the taste of that. But now when he say, “Cindy, I love you,” the taste is completely different—the taste of saying something
Back to thier date. He was telling Cindy his dream for his future. He had worked for ten years of his life and studied for four of those. But that system was not something that felt right and He had consciously decided to step away from it. He did not want to engage in money. This was not how humans are meant to live. He wanted to go back to living more naturally. He told her that mother nature provides all that they need. Water is free and abundant. He didn’t want electricity. They could have internet, but no wifi. Would she be okay with a cabled connection? She said yes. Fair compromise. But their phones always had to be off or on flight mode. He wanted to live in a cob house just like people had lived for centuries. Thier food would be provided by mother earth: they would eat what they planted and plant what they ate. Would she be okay with all of this? She said that she would. He told her to really consider this seriously because it really wouldn’t work if she asked him to mo
Apart from a small break they had when Gerard was in Armenia for his vipassana, they were now living together and figuring out their lives as ‘us’. It was the first time She was experiencing living with a romantic partner. They did have a few ups and downs.And some huge volcanoes.Once, he actually left!He left! They had a fight and he told her that this was crap, that he couldn’t go on and that he was out!They had barely slept that whole night, it was horrible.They were in the same room but emotionally miles apart. She felt like a stranger to herself.She had no appetite, her mind was dull, everything was blurry. Her whole being felt scattered. In the morning, she opened the door for him in tears and he left! Her landlady was very specific about their shared living areas and how to lock up so She had to see him out the door and off he went with his black-or-white view of life.He’s the kind of person that when he leaves, he leaves and he was sure that he wasn’t going to see h