The conversation did not fix anything immediately, and I had not expected it to.What I had expected, and what I found when I monitored the bond through the days following, was something more modest and more real than fixing, which was the opening of something that had been in the process of closing. The bond in the days after the kitchen table conversation was different from the bond in the days before it, not in the dramatic way of a transformation but in the subtle and specific way of a space that had gained a small amount of room that had not been there before, a slight easing in the compression that told me the conversation had done what I had hoped it would do, which was to reach the place the compression had been protecting and leave a trace of something there that was not entirely operational.I did not fill the space with anything.This was the most demanding thing the days after the conversation required from me, because my instinct when something opened was to move toward i
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