This feels like standing at a crossroads with two very different paths and a soundtrack playing in the background — dramatic, confusing, and a little silly. I can imagine the whole scene like a scene from 'Pride and Prejudice' where timing and pride tangle into decisions that reshape your life. If your fiancé is kind, stable, and truly a partner, marrying them before an ex shows up again can be a way of choosing a future rather than letting the past dictate terms.
On a practical level, I’d weigh motives and consequences. If my ex genuinely regrets and wants to fix past harm, that doesn’t automatically mean their return is healthy or safe. I’d talk openly with my fiancé about boundaries, legal and emotional issues, and what both of us want in five years. Commitment should feel like forward motion, not a reaction to pressure. Personally, I’d marry when I felt secure and free of coercion, not on a deadline imposed by someone who left — that choice feels like honoring both my present and my future self, and that matters to me.