I think a lot of the fascination with the so-called 'weird' stuff comes from the desire to interrogate the boundaries of intimacy itself. It’s not always about romance in the traditional sense of flowers and courtship, but about connection forged under extreme, often transgressive circumstances. Take something like a monster romance – the 'weird' premise forces the narrative to ask: what constitutes a person worthy of love? Is it a soul, a mind, or the capacity for care, regardless of the physical vessel? The romance theme becomes about recognizing personhood in the utterly alien.
These books often use the bizarre as a magnifying glass on very human emotional needs. A story about a tentacled entity and a librarian isn’t really about the tentacles; it’s about a character who feels isolated, used for their intellect, suddenly encountering a consciousness that values them in a completely non-judgmental, overwhelming way. The unconventionality strips away societal scripts, letting raw emotional and physical negotiation take center stage. The romance is in that negotiation, the building of a new language of desire.
Sometimes, the weirdness acts as a metaphor for internalized shame or trauma. A character cursed to transform, or bound to a possessive spirit, can mirror feelings of being monstrous or unlovable. The 'romance' is the partner’s journey to see the curse not as a barrier, but as an integral, accepted part of the being they love. It’s redemption through intimacy, but in a landscape where the rules are explicitly different from our own, which paradoxically makes the emotional core feel more exposed and real.