Helena was a cute little angel, nineteen years of age still in the University. She is the only child of her mother and was born out of wedlock. Her mom had spoilt her silly. In her own words, with impudent face told me, when I asked her how she got involved with her pastor said," I'm a lady that gets whatever I want. I get whoever I'm interested in, including my pastor. I do not just strike at my victim, I look for a loophole even as tiny as my little finger,".Snapping with her fingers to drive home her point. I noticed that the pastor calls me his wife when we joined his Church years back. When I grew older he continued. Clocking eighteen, my mom took me to his house for prayers because he was extremely busy in the office but he gave us another appointment, telling my mom to bring me later in the day. My mom told me to go on my own, saying that I am of age. I got there and he prayed earnestly for me. I left, but on the way, I started developing a strong desire for my pastor. So I t
The clergyperson is back on track spiritually and the next job for me is to help him get a good wife. I am taking it step by step. But you, Comfort will be wondering how I get into all the stories. It is to tell you to beware of relationships. Rob is just like the pastor, going about with so many ladies and causing a lot of havoc all over the place. You need to know the purpose of your coming as one. It may not be for marriage, not necessarily. It may be that you are to help in the life of the other. Ability to recognize the reason for coming together for a relationship is important to both of you. Having listened intently to my story, think deeply and decide what you are called to do in the life of Rob."Thanks, Debbie, you sure made my day. I never knew that I will learn so much from you kid sister. You are amazing. Rob is a no-go now. I will fulfill my purpose in his life. We can never marry at all." I told Debbie. Now looking back, I felt sad inside. I needed a
Comfort had gotten the message, there is a purpose for her relationship with Rob. He needs Comfort's help not as a wife but as a friend. She took up the challenge, though both of them wants to be together it's not the plan of God. "His transformation is my purpose." Comfort thought to herself. Rob was tired of his wayward life. He had hurt so many ladies and he wants to change, if only Comfort would accept his proposal, then he would change. Those were his thoughts. Man proposes, but God disposes is a true statement because Gods, thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are quite different from ours.Rob called to inform Comfort that he was coming to Nigeria to see her. Comfort wondered why he wanted it. He sounded desperate on the phone. He landed and came to see her in her sister's house. They were excited to see themselves. Rob spoke, pleading with Comfort passionately."Comfort, please I need your help, my parents gave me an ultimatum to marry. They want to hand over
Rob found it difficult to give me five decent ladies. All his life, he had always attracted rough women. He was getting agitated about getting a decent lady to marry. He said at a time, "maybe my nemesis is catching up on me. It's pretty hard, you know. Women are many but not wife material. My pastor calls them, virtuous women are rare to come by. He was on my neck for my friends but I am scared of doing that. He came to my office one day and saw one of the Secretary who greeted him politely when he asked for me. " She looked modest and well composed too. Do you know her?" Rob asked. I told him, "Rob, stop being desperate, relax and pray for the right one. I do not know her enough but she is a nice lady that was jilted recently. I do not know if she will be ready for a serious relationship". He approached the lady, and asked her out, she refused him outright and became rude in the process. I encouraged him to ignore her sauciness. She may later agree if he persisted. One day,
I tried persuading Paul to wait for Emily but he was so discouraged that he felt it will be of no use. He told me to forget her, but rather look for another or pick from one of his numerous ones that are eager. Though not convinced, I had no choice but to look for another one. Rob kept on pestering me that there was no more time. I was able to calm him down because I got a lady I met at thesupermarket. I bumped into the lady Eunice. She is charming. She wanted me to recommend a good toothpaste to use for herself. She asked for my opinion as to that. I chose Colgate instead of Macleans. When she was about to go, I followed her and asked for her number. I invited her to a restaurant and told Rob to meet us there. Rob excitedly came over and exchanged pleasant greetings. I quickly excused myself to go to the restroom. Rob engaged her properly. They started a friendship and we're doing very fine together. I was going to the shopping mall to get some toiletries when I saw a Jeep
Emily started to receive strange calls from ladies, claiming she snatched their boyfriend. " Don't think you can just come from nowhere to have my man. He is mine and I am pregnant for him.""Who are you to threaten me. If you mean anything to him, he could have married you. Respect yourself and stay in your lane. Is marriage, by force, why are you sounding desperate. Don't be a loser, move forward and get yourself one unless you are an old desperate maid." Emily replied taunting the lady. Emily was up to the task, she has the energy to withstand the ladies. She was ready for all of them. Going to the shopping mall, she met a lady who claimed she was pregnant for Rob. She made a terrible scene. "Leave my husband alone, can you see that I am carrying his baby. He doesn't have time for me and the baby. Why are you so callous? One of the greatest mistakes you made is marrying him because you will never enjoy the marriage.". She kept on yelling at me. I chose to ignore her
Entering the shopping mall, I heard someone, calling my name with a foreign accent, I turned to see the man, It became a man I knew faintly. I kept on looking at his face, and he guessed I had lost memory of him. He took his time to talk, then he cleared his throat as if a little bit embarrassed. He said, "I can see you have forgotten Rob's cousin, Vincent shortened for Vin.". Oh! I can remember you now. We met at Ibadan when I went to visit a friend. Sure, the memory is clearer now. I know I have seen the face before but could not be sure where. How are you doing Vin?". "I'm fine Commy, you look great dear.". He said admiringly. " Thank you, but what are you up to in this place?". I asked him wondering what he was doing here. "Good question dear, I came for a wedding of my friend. He lives in Houston, Texas too but he came to marry his heartthrob. I followed him as one of his friends." He said.Vincent inquired of Rob, saying it's been long they separated and had not bee
Vincent and I became close pals, my gossip mate, confidante. I found in him a brother indeed. You can not imagine the relief in my heart when he never talked about an intimate relationship. Vin came to the hostel to visit me, he was feeling a little dejected, " What's your difficulty, Vin?" I asked. He shook his head in despair and said, "Can you imagine my girlfriend called from Washington, D.C., asking me about Comfort, that is you. Someone in Nigeria called her that I am gallivanting all over with one Comfort. She was really mad at me and vowed to revenge. As I am talking to you she is with my best friend. She showed me their photograph hugging". Pain tugged at his heart. He was visibly disturbed. I grew angry with him, " You are a chicken?". I said. Surprisingly, he looked at me and got my message."Thanks, love, I cherish our relationship more than this distraction. To hell with her.Thanks for jolting me back to reality. I'm no chicken. Though painful, I'I put it behind me. &nbs
Making up my mind to help Vincent settle down with a good lady was not the easiest of jobs.Making sure he believed in ladies was getting difficult, but I kept on talking to him. He needed to change and be more disciplined in life. One of the days I asked him what he needed in a lady or his ideal woman. "I'm getting more confused day in day out. I can not see a good lady and I don't believe that I would recognize one again. I'm just too disappointed in my former girlfriend. I trusted her much and she listened to gossip that destroyed everything I've ever believed. Please don't preach to me. You are the one that can bring someone, somewhere for me to marry."Vincent retorted in total surrender. He was pacing up and down like a worried man or should I say like someone who needed to recover his lost goods. It came to a time, I screamed at him" Will you sit your ass down and let me breathe in peace.". I yanked. He sat down looking into my face in a sober mood. I came to his si