I told him on Tuesday morning.I had slept well, which I had not expected. The decision had settled overnight into something I recognized as certain, not without complication, not without the specific weight of what the travel would mean and what it would require of all four of us, but certain in the way that true things were certain once you had stopped arguing with them.I woke before the twins, which was not always possible and was to be used when available, and I lay in the early morning dark and thought about how to say it.Not whether to say it. I had resolved that the night before. How.I had learned that how mattered with Tristan. Not in the sense of managing him or softening the information into something easier than it was, but in the sense that the framing told him what kind of conversation this was, what his role in it was, what I needed from him. He was good at responding to accurate framing. He was still learning to respond to conversations that arrived without it.I dec
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