What Challenges Are In The Adventure Challenge Book In Bed

The "Adventure Challenge in Bed" is a great source of ideas for recently-in-relationship couples to have some fun together, but not without some challenges. For one, some of the activities require little props or set ups to be ready to go (for example, a DIY massage oil station, or a playlist of songs that tell your love story). The "mystery scratch-off" format is so fun, but can also make for some un-prep-able moments.

Another obstacle is bringing out the emotional, sensitive aspect of our partners. For example, the task of ‘staring into each other’s eyes for five minutes without speaking’ sounds very simple to most of us, however, we rarely connect without distractions in our busy lives. Most of the simple challenges are followed by deeply emotional and serious ones. For example, we can be laughing our heads off after a pillow fight challenge and then move on to discuss our ideas for our future together within the framework of the book.

Another potential challenge is logistics. Some of the tasks require privacy or time, such as a “midnight snack heist” which requires sneaking around the kitchen in the middle of the night. This could be difficult for couples who live with roommates or kids, but it’s all part of the improvisational aspect of the book. Of course, not every challenge is going to resonate with every couple, and some, such as the “role-reversal” prompt, where you play the other half of the couple for a night, may even feel a bit forced if you’re not naturally inclined to act. But the awkwardness is all part of the charm.

The book contains many ideas for prompts to help express love of different kinds to partners of different primary love languages. For example, “compliment your partner’s appearance in a way you never have before” helps with Words of Affirmation. “Draw a shape on their back” is good for Physical Touch. And “plan a dream project” could be either Quality Time or Acts of Service, depending on how you carry it out.

The good news is that you’ll be stretching yourself to express care for your partner in the ways that he/she appreciates. The not-so-good news is that many of the activities will feel very unnatural, for example, a non-verbally oriented person is asked to write poetry. The biggest challenge of all to this method is to give each other (and yourself) grace to express yourself awkwardly in a partner’s less primary ‘language’. Practicing the various languages of love in a safe environment is a very positive thing. It has the potential to help make a very multilingual lover out of you. But be prepared for some grueling sessions in the beginning. The real challenge is to grow in this area and the hardest part is pushing through the initial awkwardness to connect with each other in new ways.

' Oh yes, it is! Very up and down – lots of laughter and surprises! Physical challenges like ‘Tangled Legs’ are lots of fun and require lots of coordination and team work. However, there are also lots of deeper challenges that really reveal how different partners think and how to work together creatively – for example ‘Shared Storytelling’ where you create a fantasy world together.

The book is a brilliant design but it can be challenging, particularly for commitment-phobes, because you can’t look ahead at the challenges in store for you. In my book, one of the prompt I scratched off asked us to recreate our very first date, but since we met online that wasn’t going to work too well. Instead we decided to simulate a really cringey and awkward first date on a Zoom call, complete with lots of fumbles and mistakes – and it became one of our funniest memories ever.

Many of the activities need your full attention which is difficult after a long day of work, hence you need to organize yourself well in order to prioritize your play time. My advice to you is not to perform but to play the game. Even the ones that we failed to do like the synchronized breathing that we tried to do, became a great memory and even a joke between us.