Okay, if you want books that dig deeper than the typical erotic romance, start with a mix of essays and fiction that actually interrogate power, consent, identity, and history. I fell into 'The Second Sex' and felt like the ground shifted under my reading habits; it’s dense but worth it for the way it frames female experience across philosophy and society. Pair that with 'The Feminine Mystique' for a more historical, domestic-focused perspective that explains why some tropes in romance exist at all.
For something more contemporary and bite-sized, read 'We Should All Be Feminists' and 'Bad Feminist'—they’re conversational and perfect when you want digestible insights that still land hard. If you want fiction that treats sexuality as part of a whole human life rather than the whole plot, try 'The Power' and 'The Handmaid’s Tale' (trigger-warning: authoritarian control themes). For lyrical, intersectional storytelling, 'Beloved' or 'Their Eyes Were Watching God' will stick with you in a way steamy scenes never do.
My two cents: mix theory, memoir, and novels. It keeps your brain engaged and shows how feminism reshapes character, plot, and desire across forms.