The Wife He Took For Granted
"I think for a long time in our marriage, I was shorthand for his success, in the sense that my needs and my career mattered less than whatever he was building. I don't think that danger ever fully disappears just because you've both changed. I think you have to keep actively refusing it, project by project, decision by decision."
"I'd add that we made a rule early on," Adrian said, picking up naturally from where she'd left off. "Separate material, separate credit, no joint narrative unless both of us specifically choose it, the way we chose this Q&A today. I think the temptation to let one person's story absorb the other's is always there, especially in a marriage, and especially when one