MY GYNECOLOGIST
She talked more about the clinic, about names she had already started thinking about, too early, I know, but I can’t help it, and I listened and nodded and was present in every way except the one that mattered.
I am a gynecologist. I help women understand their bodies, their options, their paths toward the families they want. I have built a career around the specific, sacred work of helping people become parents. I had built that career, in part, out of something I had never fully examined, the desire to be useful in exactly the way that medicine could be useful, present in exactly the moments that mattered.
And I was sitting in my own kitchen watching my wife plan a fertility journey toward