Breaking the news about divorce is never easy, but clarity and honesty are key. I’d start by choosing a calm moment when neither of us is distracted or stressed. Instead of blaming, I’d focus on how I feel—something like, 'I’ve been struggling with our relationship for a while, and I don’t see a future where we both thrive together.' It’s important to acknowledge the good times too, but emphasize that staying isn’t healthy for either of us.
Preparing for his reaction is crucial. He might be shocked, angry, or sad, and I’d give him space to process. I’d avoid justifying myself endlessly or getting dragged into a debate—this isn’t about winning an argument. If logistics come up, like living arrangements or finances, I’d suggest revisiting those later when emotions aren’t as raw. Ending with something like, 'I care about you, but I need to prioritize my well-being,' keeps it respectful.