Moving On
For his preschool career assignment, my four-year-old son, Joey Parker, writes that he wants to be a homewrecker.
When I stare at him in disbelief, he defends his choice with complete confidence.
"Mommy's secretary, Mr. Sebastian Hayes, is a homewrecker, and he's living a pretty great life.
"Mommy buys him fancy suits that you don't have, and she always drives him to and from work without fail."
Joey tilts his head and looks at me curiously.
"I hear the grown-ups calling him a homewrecker all the time. So why don't you become one, too?
"Besides, they say male homewreckers are super rare. And you're so amazing, Daddy! I bet you'd be the best one ever!"
My face drains of color. I stand frozen, unable to utter a single word.
Years ago, one comment from my wife, Amelia Brooks, about needing someone to take care of the family for me was enough to make me quit my job and become a stay-at-home dad.
For years, I've swallowed my hurt and endured one humiliation after another, all because I want our son to grow up in a complete family.
I've never imagined that my patience would teach him to mistake being the other man for being loved.
I'm about to respond when Joey interrupts me.
"Daddy, I know you and Mommy fought today because she's going out to dinner with Mr. Hayes instead of celebrating your birthday with you.
"I don't like it when you and Mommy fight. So when I grow up, I'll be a homewrecker, too. Then you won't have to fight anymore."
It feels as though an invisible fist closes around my heart. Rage surges through me, making the veins in my forehead throb.
But the moment I meet my son's innocent gaze, the question that has tormented me for years suddenly has an answer.
"Joey, being a homewrecker is wrong. If you don't like living this way, then I'll take you somewhere new. We'll find a home of our own, one without your mommy."