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My wife and I were both messed up in our own ways. I was possessive, while she liked seeing me get angry.
She said emotions were proof of love. If you loved someone, you would get angry.
Just to see me lose my temper, she deliberately went against me at every turn.
I hated her staying in contact with her first love, Chris, yet she arranged for him to work under her.
I repeatedly warned her not to meet him in private, but she still went on dates with him and even made a point of telling me about them.
I hated the smell of cigarette smoke on Chris, so she brought him home to stay for a week and made me smell cigarette smoke every single day.
I completely lost my temper and, for the first time, threatened to leave home.
Nicole panicked. To win me back, she stood outside in the pouring rain all night. She probably apologized to me ten thousand times, and only then did I forgive her. I warned her that she wasn't allowed to pull anything like that again, or I would never forgive her.
But on the day of the family gathering, she still brought Chris with her. She introduced him to my parents without the slightest hesitation.
"This is my ex-boyfriend, Chris. From now on, the three of us are going to live together. Honey, isn't that right?"
Nicole looked at me expectantly. She was waiting for me to get angry and lose my temper again. She wanted the intensity of my reaction to prove just how deeply I loved her.
But this time, I saw my parents' faces turn red with anger. I also saw my in-laws smiling from ear to ear.
Suddenly, I felt neither anger nor affection toward her.
Right there and then, I scheduled a divorce appointment and calmly told her, "That won't be necessary. Three people in one relationship is too restrictive. Let's get divorced. You can be with him."