Ugh, dealing with a possessive ex is like trying to shake off a clingy shadow—it’s exhausting and frankly, a bit creepy. First things first: set clear boundaries. If they’re texting or calling nonstop, don’t engage. Every 'just one reply' fuels their obsession. I learned that the hard way. Document everything—screenshots, voicemails, weird 'gifts' left at your door. It’s not paranoid; it’s practical. If they escalate, you’ll need proof for a restraining order.
Tell mutual friends not to share updates about you. Some people think they’re 'helping' by passing along info, but it’s just ammo for your ex. And if they show up unannounced? Don’t open the door. Call a friend or the cops if you feel unsafe. It’s okay to prioritize your peace over being 'nice.' Trust me, I wish I’d been firmer sooner—it would’ve saved months of stress.