Roewan
My girlfriend, Megan Sutton, was a pragmatist.
On our anniversary, I gave her a bouquet of flowers. She turned right around and returned it to the florist. "That was over thirty dollars. We could've had a whole steak dinner for that."
Once the renovations on our marital home were finished, we went browsing at a furniture store and came across a really comfortable ergonomic chair. She glanced at the price tag and immediately pulled me up out of it. "It costs more than a computer. Your butt isn't made of gold."
I knew all about her pragmatic principles, and I hadn't really meant to buy it anyway. I wandered around the store in a funk, and in the end, we went home empty-handed.
But two days later, I saw that exact chair at the place next door, where our junior labmate, Jeff Baxter, lived.
"Thank you, you two! Best seniors ever! You didn't even let yourselves buy one, and you got me such an expensive birthday present.
"I'm about to cry. When you two get married, I'm writing you the biggest check of anyone."
I thought about the package I'd received that afternoon. It was a chair Megan had bought me online. It was shoddily made and reeked of chemicals. I'd even cut my hand on the sheet metal while putting it together.
Looking around Jeff's place, I suddenly remembered when we'd picked out our sofa. She'd said genuine leather was too expensive, so we'd settled on a dark gray performance fabric. Only a few days later, Jeff had swapped his for a new sofa.
Seeing me frozen in place, Megan explained, "I just thought it'd match the style of Jeff's place. It's exactly his taste."
She'd furnished our new home cheaply and halfheartedly, yet whenever she saw something nice, the first person she thought of was her junior.
For me, it was all about practicality and value for money. For him, it was about style and taste.
If that was how it was, I'd let them have their romance and bow out of this seven-year relationship.