Okay, I'm gonna tackle this because it's a topic I've seen come up a lot in reader circles, and honestly, my take isn't gonna be popular with everybody. Reclaiming the word 'pussy' as a power thing? I get the intent, I really do. In books, especially in some of the more aggressive, take-charge female-led eroticas I've read, it's often used as a verbal weapon. The character will say it with this defiant, almost snarling pride during a scene, flipping a crude insult into a badge of honor.
But I sometimes wonder if it really lands that way for every reader, or if it can feel a bit performative. Like, the empowerment feels strongest in the fantasy of the narrative—this character is so fierce she can own any word—but does it actually change the sting of the word out here in the real world? I don't know. It works for me sometimes, especially in dark romance where the heroine is clawing back power from a morally gray love interest; she'll use his own crude language against him. But other times, in lighter reads, it just feels like edgy shorthand for 'I'm confident,' without the emotional heft to back it up.
I guess it depends entirely on the character's journey. If she's spent the whole book being shamed or underestimated, that reclamation moment can feel like a legit cathartic punch. If it's just tossed in there for spice, it rings hollow. My favorite example of it done right is actually in a paranormal series where the vampire heroine keeps getting called that by her enemies, and at the climax she hisses, 'Yeah, I'm the pussy that's got your tongue,' right before she bites him. It was so specific, so perfectly tied to her arc of embracing her monstrous side, that it worked.