So, I kinda stumbled into this genre by accident after reading 'A Court of Thorns and Roses' because everyone was talking about it online. I found the blend of world-building and, well, other stuff really accessible. It's not subtle, but the plot actually moves along, which kept me from feeling lost. For someone completely new, I'd say start there, because the fantasy elements are familiar and the romance escalates in a way that's pretty easy to follow.
After that, maybe check out 'From Blood and Ash'. The world is a bit more complex, but the main character's perspective is very immediate, so you're learning about the magic and politics alongside her. The steamier parts are woven into the central mystery, which gives you a reason to keep reading beyond just those scenes. It feels less like jumping into the deep end and more like a guided tour with some fun detours. I got through it in a weekend and immediately wanted more books with that same vibe.