Back in my teens I fell hard for swordplay and scandalous honor codes, and if you’re new to this world I’d tell you to start with heart first, spectacle second. My top recommendation is the Condor trilogy — 'The Legend of the Condor Heroes', 'The Return of the Condor Heroes', and 'Heaven Sword and Dragon Sabre'. They’re long, immersive, and full of character arcs that make you care; think sprawling friendship, mentorship, tragic romance, and shifting loyalties. Then add 'Demi-Gods and Semi-Devils' for a more philosophical, tangled morality play, and 'The Smiling, Proud Wanderer' if you want a leaner, edgier read that skewers hypocrisy in the jianghu.
If you prefer variety, slot in 'Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon' for poetic wuxia with quieter emotional stakes, and 'The Deer and the Cauldron' if you like satire and an anti-hero who flouts martial ideals. For pacing, start with one standalone or shorter novel to get the language and conventions, then commit to an epic.
Also, don’t skip modern translations or a good glossary—names and clans can overwhelm. Watch an adaptation or two after reading a book: it solidifies characters in my head and sometimes reveals cultural notes I missed. These reads shaped how I picture heroic fights and crooked courts, and they still hook me every time.