Honestly, most of this subgenre gets the balance wrong. Authors lean so hard into describing the VR mechanics—the stats, the gear, the skill trees—that the real world feels like an annoying loading screen you have to sit through. I need a reason to care when the headset comes off. 'Wired for Glory' did it well, I thought, by making the protagonist's physical disability a source of constant friction; her achievements in the game were brilliant, but logging out meant facing a society that still treated her as broken. That contrast created actual stakes, not just a backdrop.
Other times, the real world is just a flimsy stage for interpersonal drama that could happen anywhere. If the only tension is whether the guild leader finds out you're secretly his roommate, that's just a sitcom plot with extra steps. The good stuff makes you question which world holds the real consequences, or lets the rules of the game bleed over in unsettling ways. When it's done poorly, I just skim until the login sequence starts again. The best entries make you dread the logout prompt as much as the character might.