Relationships are messy, and the whole 'I hate you but love you' dynamic is one of those things that sounds romantic in movies but feels exhausting in real life. I've seen friends stuck in these rollercoaster relationships where one minute they're screaming at each other and the next they're making up like nothing happened. It's like emotional whiplash! Sure, passion can be intense, but if 'hate' is a recurring emotion, that’s not love—it’s toxicity masquerading as excitement. Healthy love should feel safe, not like you’re constantly walking on eggshells or waiting for the next blowup.
That said, I get the appeal. There’s something addictive about the drama, the highs and lows. But long-term? It’s unsustainable. I’ve binged enough toxic romance arcs in shows like 'You' or 'Normal People' to know that real happiness doesn’t come from chaos. It comes from mutual respect, even when you’re annoyed. If 'hate' is a frequent guest in your relationship, maybe it’s time to rethink the guest list.