Breakups are messy, and when an ex reappears, it’s like reopening a book you thought you’d finished. First, ask yourself: why now? Is she genuinely seeking closure, or is loneliness driving her back? I’ve seen friends spiral when they dive in without reflection. Take time to untangle your own feelings—write them down, talk to a neutral party, or just sit with the discomfort. Nostalgia can blur reality, and that ‘what if’ fantasy often crumbles under daylight.
If you consider rekindling, set boundaries. Maybe meet in public, keep conversations light at first, and watch for patterns. Did the same issues cause the split? Old flames can burn the same way twice. And if it’s just guilt or curiosity on her part? A polite but firm ‘thanks, but no thanks’ saves everyone future heartache. Sometimes, the best closure is moving forward.