Wow, that's a wild situation to unpack. I can only imagine the whirlwind of emotions you must be feeling—shock, betrayal, maybe even a flicker of nostalgia? Proposing on your wedding day isn't just a bad move; it's a nuclear-level breach of boundaries. It hijacks what should be one of the most meaningful moments of your life and twists it into something about them. Forgiveness is a deeply personal choice, but it's worth asking: are they genuinely remorseful, or just trying to rewrite history on their terms? Some wounds are too deep to stitch up with an apology, and that's okay.
What sticks with me is the sheer audacity of the act. It's not just about the timing; it's about the intent. Did they want to 'win you back,' or were they trying to sabotage your happiness? Either way, it speaks volumes about their priorities. If you do consider forgiveness, it shouldn't come at the cost of your peace. You deserve closure, whether that's cutting ties or setting ironclad boundaries. My gut says this isn't about whether they 'deserve' forgiveness—it's about whether holding onto that anger still serves you. Either way, your wedding day belongs to you and your partner, not to someone else's unfinished business.