Figuring out where to start with the monogatari novels feels a bit like being handed a complicated, wonderful puzzle box. The publication order, which begins with 'Kizumonogatari', was actually written after several other arcs, so Nisio Isin expects you to have some knowledge of the characters already. Jumping straight into 'Kizumonogatari' can be disorienting because it's a stark, intense origin story that feels tonally different from the rest. For a first-time reader, the narrative release order—the order in which the anime adapted the story—is far more intuitive and rewarding. This means you'd pick up 'Bakemonogatari' first, which introduces you to Araragi, Senjougahara, and the strange world of oddities through a more conventional, if still brilliantly quirky, mystery format.
Starting with 'Bakemonogatari' lets you meet the characters at a point where they are still somewhat knowable, before diving into the weirder prequels and sequels. You get a feel for the rapid-fire dialogue, the meta-humor, and the unique narrative voice. Then you'd follow with 'Kizumonogatari', which now plays as a fascinating flashback, coloring in the motivations and history you're already curious about. After that, 'Nisemonogatari' and 'Nekomonogatari (Kuro)' continue building the world and the cast's relationships in a way that makes chronological sense emotionally, even if the timeline jumps around.
The beauty of this approach is that it mirrors the experience of getting to know someone in real life—you learn their present self first, then gradually uncover their past. It makes the reveals in later novels, like those in 'Otorimonogatari' or 'Koimonogatari', land with much more impact because you’ve built a solid foundation. I’ve seen readers try the strict chronological order and often get bogged down in the timeline instead of just enjoying the character progression and witty banter. The narrative order simply flows better, letting the series' clever structure work for you, not against you. My own copies are pretty worn from following that exact path.