Insecurity In Relationship Novels & Stories

Tulad nila ng asawa niya, hiwalayan din ang bagsak. Dapat kasi may balance, parehong nagmamahalan at parehong kumakapit. Pero kapag isa lang ang humahawak, hindi matibay ang relasyon na iyon. Posible na masira, mawasak at maglaho iyon sa simpleng problema na hinaharap. Hindi kasi matibay ang pondasyon. “Oh hija, balik ko na ba ‘to sa kuwarto mo?”

Kaya rin siguro madalas siyang konsentihin nito. “Marriage won’t patch up insecurities and uncertainties yet people marry for security. We wanted a person all by ourselves so we promise to love them forever for them to stay beside us. We wanted them to be ours, even though we know that is literally, figuratively, and morally impossible. No one can possess another.

Hindi ko maiwasang mapangiti, naramdaman kong kumirot ang puso ko sa walang patid niyang pag-assurance. Sa totoo lang, I crave that reassurance every now and then because there's a constant fear lingering inside me that he might suddenly stop loving me and decide to walk away. Ang mga lalaking tulad ni Andrew ay may reputasyon na hinahabol ka nila nang madamdamin sa simula, at iiwan ka lang sa bandang huli. Ngunit ang kanyang pare-parehong pagtiyak at ang pagsisikap na inilalagay niya sa aming relasyon ay nagpapagaan ng aking mga alalahanin.

“I’m just afraid when the night starts to fall.” “Why?” I smiled bitterly and looked at him. “Because that’s when insecurities and doubts will start to visit me.” His forehead knotted. “That’s not good for you and your baby.” “I know,” mahinang saad ko. “Alam na alam ko. Pero anong magagawa ko kung kusa silang bibisita sa ‘kin, ‘di ba? Might as well have them take a seat and have a coffee.” “What are your insecurities about?”

My concern was genuine, my love unwavering, but I didn’t want to stifle her, to suffocate her, to undermine her strength. Ang hirap paglabanan ng nararamdaman ko dahil pakiramdam ko, parang sarili ko lang din ang kakampi ko. My desire to protect her, to ensure her safety, warred with my desire to respect her independence, to preserve our relationship. The silence stretched on, the anxiety intensifying, the fear growing. Each passing moment was a fresh wave of dread, a chilling reminder of the potential danger she faced.

Marriages and relationships may work for a while, but they always end up souring. 9. Everyone I love eventually leaves me. 10. There is something wrong with me, and I don’t know what it takes to make a relationship work. 11. I always pick the wrong partners, or the wrong partners always pick me. All of the above statements reflect a lack of confidence. If you truly want to have a lasting and satisfying relationship, you must first acknowledge and work to overcome your fear of abandonment, self-doubt, and lack of self-acceptance. Trusting yourself will only happen when you are able to love others in a committed way and believe in your ability to find lasting love.

Kung hindi lang talaga dahil sa panloloko sa akin ni Julius na ang kapal pa ng mukha dahil best friend daw niya si Mae pero siya rin pala ang tinatago niyang karelasyon, hindi naman siguro ako magiging ganito ka-paranoid. Doon yata nagsimula lahat ng insecurities ko. Yung feeling na kahit anong tibay ng tiwala ko, pwede pa ring gumuho sa isang iglap. Yung sakit na akala mo safe ka sa taong sinasandalan mo, tapos biglang siya pa ang sasaksak sa’yo.

Kung hindi niya ito gusto, kung wala siya sa kanyang puso, wala siyang pakialam sa kanyang nararamdaman. Ito ay dahil nagmamalasakit siya na nagagalit siya na nakikipag-date ito sa ibang mga lalaki, natatakot na mayroon itong ibang tao sa kanyang puso, natatakot na hindi na siya pag-aari nito. Minsan sa relasyong ito, hindi lang siya ang nakakaramdam ng insecure. Pero maraming beses ayaw niyang aminin na hindi siya mabubuhay kung wala siya.

Kaya sa ama na lang kung sakali. Ang security na naramdaman ko nitong nagdaan sa piling ni Leander, naroon. Pero parang literal na security pala. Mga bantay. Pero ‘yong security pagdating sa relationships namin, biglang nagulo. I can’t completely trust him pala.

He sipped once after he blows it for a while to cool it down. "Hindi naman porket maganda ka na, hindi ka na rin nakararamdam ng insecurity," wika ko na tinawanan niya lang. "Insecurity is not bound to the idea of physicality. It could mean by social status, achievements, educational background or anything a person possess that makes the other person think that he's less of himself," pagsasalaysay ko. "Oo nga naman. I could agree to that but hey, see, you said it yourself. Maganda ka nga," aniya at sabay nga kaming pumasok sa elevator kasama si Johnson na biglang nagsuot ng earphones. "Well?"