I’ve noticed a real shift lately. The early stuff often just... didn’t address consent, which honestly made me stop reading a lot of authors. It wasn’t the kink itself, but the assumption that the daddy dynamic automatically overrides agency. It felt gross.
What I find more now, especially in the top bookmarks on Ao3, are stories that treat the power exchange as the point of negotiation, not the excuse to skip it. A good one will have Baekhyun stating his limits or using a safeword even while playing the ‘spoiled’ role, and Chanyeol constantly checking in, sometimes nonverbally. It makes the ‘daddy’ persona feel more like a caretaker role, which is what a lot of readers are actually there for, I think.
The balance seems to come from writers who understand that fantasy relies on a foundation of safety, even in text. If a character’s consent is treated as irrelevant, it just reads as anxiety-inducing for me. But when it’s woven into the fabric of their play—like Chanyeol stopping everything because Baekhyun’s tone shifted, even though he was ‘supposed’ to be in charge—that’s when the dynamic gets truly intense and satisfying. It’ s the difference between a fantasy that feels risky-sexy and one that just feels, well, risky.